WORKING MOMS / STAY AT HOME MOMS

May 1, 2013


As Ruthie reaches the 3 month mark tomorrow, I can't help but think how quickly time is floating by and how wonderful the past 3 months have been at home with her. Before I had a child, I always thought I'd work full time when we had kids- that'd I'd want a career and family and be one of those professional women who have it all. Slowly as Nick and I sank into our groove as a married couple and my love for being around the house grew, I knew that when our time came for a family I'd want to stay home with our kids. It happened gradually but boy was the desire to stay home and raise our kids strong as ever by the time I became pregnant. It really has become that dream job you strive for your entire career. I know it's not for everyone nor is it every mother's desire but I just can not believe that I get to do this every day. I DO work part time from home running our business and blogging here and for a few other sites, and come September I will be going back to my classroom, teaching twice a week, but by then Ru will be 7 months and i'll only be away from her a total of 12 hours a week. I think we can handle that. I have mixed emotions about it though. It's the greatest gig and the hours are so ideal but it's still hard for me to think about having to be away from her for two entire days. Friends have told me the adult interaction will be a welcomed change, however I teach a montessori class full of 3-6 year olds sooooo...haha. I know when the time comes the first couple teaching days will be hard for me but eventually I'll find my groove and being back in my little classroom will be wonderful. And can I just say, single working parents- HOLY CRAP. You guys are amazing. I have an incredible new appreciation for how hard my mom worked raising my brother and I and how dang good she was at it.

So I'm curious. What is your ideal mama / working scenario? If you work, was going back to your job hard? No matter how you spend your days, all of us mama's are awesome and should be supportive of everyone's decisions :)

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  1. ya know, i heard on the today show a while back (probably while i was pregnant) that if stay at home mamas got a salary we'd be worth over $100,000 a year! crazy. but we're personal chefs, chafferers, cleaning ladies, accountants, personal shoppers, and more so i guess that's a decent salary ;)

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    1. I've seen something like that too. Love it!

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  2. I've been at home full-time for 5 years now... it's a tough job, the hardest I've ever worked, but I also love being here with my guys day in and day out. I'm grateful to be able to do this, because I know not everyone can (or wants to).

    I don't know if there's any one perfect way to juggle parenting and a career, but it sounds like you''ll have a good mix going... lots of time at home with Ruthie, while also getting to do something that's for yourself (both career-wise and personally). I think whether for pay or not, it IS important for us at-home parents to have something that we do for ourselves, separate from the role of Parent.

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    1. I agree with you that having your own thing aside from parenting is important whatever that may be- even if just a hobby. I think i'm just one of those moms who can't bear the thought of missing things- first laughs, rolls, steps etc....It sort of seems selfish but I think why have a baby if you don't want to be around for all those things. (not speaking about women who have to work either)

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  3. I think this is a topic that will change and evolve as Ruthie gets older, and you get into a bit more of a routine- but it will always be a challenge. So many times i feel torn between holding Liam's hand all day, covering him in kisses, and watching his every move, and also letting him roam and entertain himself while I get things done ( even something as simple as cleaning his breakfast dishes so he can eat off something for lunch!). As a work at home mom too, I had a brief period of time when I was particularly busy, and felt stressed that Liam wasn't napping to 'allow me to work'. Let's just say this wasn't a proud mommy moment. Michael helped me come to terms with not expecting to get that work done until after we put him down for the night, and any productive time i had during the day while he was napping was seen as 'bonus time'. Since then I've been able to enjoy him more, and the evenings are for me, or me and michael. It's working for us so far!

    PS. can't wait to see you in a few weeks! We are so excited to check out this flea!! :) and that babe!

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    1. I agree with you Kel. I'm sure how I feel now will change as she gets older and we settled into more of a routine. It is so hard imagining other people caring for her the way I do which sounds so ridiculous. We have 3 sets of parents within 20 minutes of us so I know the care she gets aside from Nick and I will be amazing (they raised us for peetes sake!) and I have full trust in them but there is still just something about them not being her mom that leaves me anxious. I think because this is all still knew to us. I want her to be away from me a couple days a week and learn some independence a part from me so i know it will be good when that time comes. I think part of it too is she is just so gosh darn fun. I love having my favorite little person with me all the time! :)

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  4. I work full time outside the home. With my first daughter, I took full maternity leave, and I will say I was ready to go back to work. I loved being home and being able to just sit and relax, but I was craving adult interaction. With my second, I only took 5 weeks off, due to financial reasons, and wow, was I not ready to go back. I wanted more time with him, I wanted more alone one on one time with my daughter. Now that they are 3 and 1, it feels like we've been doing this forever, but it was a big adjustment.

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    1. Thanks for sharing Izzy. I can't imagine going back full time at 5 weeks but think it's amazing that you knew you had to do what you had to do. We all have to just do what feels right and is best for our family.

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  5. i wrote you back in a blog haha http://www.littleredbirdstudio.com/2013/05/hurdles-healthy-balance.html thanks for helping my finish a draft lol! ps your sitch seems pretty awesome: 6 month maternity with a good sleeper in spring and summer with family watching the lamb! not bad, not bad :)

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    1. Just read it. Loved it and share a lot of similar thoughts. obviously.

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  6. Hi! I found your blog via Living on Love. its beautiful! I worked before we had kids and stopped to stay home with my 2. Now my kids are in preschool a few days a week (in the mornings) and that gives me time to blog/list on etsy. And next year my 5 year old heads to kindergarten. Soon I'll need to asses my "career" but my heart is at home, always. When (if) I go back to a traditional job I'll want to work around my kids school schedule!

    I think 12 hours a week sounds lovely :)

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    1. Hi Julia! Glad you found me and thanks for commenting! Your situation sounds wonderful. I feel like I'm in a similar boat right now and really have zero complaints. I get to spend my days at home with Ruthie which is exactly what I want to be doing and by the time she's 7 months old, 12 hours a week away will be good for both of us, I think. That is the nice thing about teaching (for me) - If I continue to work as my child(ren) become school age I should be able to drop them off and pick them up each day :)

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  7. I've always found it amazing how each family adapts to what is needed and what's best for the family. Because your work centers around little ones (and specifically education-- how awesome is that?!) and your business is family run, I think you and Ru will find the transition to be pretty smooth. And having a flexible, supportive work atmosphere with the option to cut back on something here or there will make a huge difference.

    I imagine there's a big difference between working full time and staying at home full time. But if you are something in between, as so many of us are, you can kind of straddle the best of both worlds by contributing financially and sustaining a career but also getting to be with your little one most of the time.

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    1. I agree 100% with having the best of both worlds. At least that's how it seems I'll feel in 4 more months when I return to the classroom a couple days a week!

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